Pause
interrupts the momentum around the matter.
There are moments when you do not need another opinion.
You have the information.
You have capable advisers.
You understand the options.
And still, something consequential isn’t moving.
Bring me that.
HELD. A private intensive with Patricia Pollack.
01 · What HELD is
A private one-to-one intensive.
HELD is a private one to one intensive for a person carrying a consequential matter that has remained unresolved, despite having the information, the expertise and the resources to address it.
I am not another adviser on the matter.
I will not tell you what decision to make.
We begin with the matter at hand. Not your entire life story. Not months of preparation.
What isn’t moving?
I work with the place where knowing what you could do and being able to move are no longer the same thing.
02 · The method
Pause.
Regulate.
Do.
Repeat.
Regulate
creates enough capacity to remain present with what is actually here.
Do
is the action that belongs to you. When movement becomes available, the action may be very small. A call. A conversation. Opening the document. Asking the question. Communicating the decision. Naming the boundary.
Repeat
is the return. After the DO, we come back to PAUSE, notice what the action produced, and regulate again.
The purpose is not to manufacture certainty before you act. Nor is it to make discomfort disappear. It is to create enough capacity for agency to remain intact.
03 · The Second Hold
HELD does not treat the DO as the finish line.
Sometimes the most consequential part begins immediately afterward.
The email has been sent. The conversation has happened. The boundary has been named. The document has been signed. The other person has responded, or hasn’t.
Something that was theoretical has become real.
This is the Second Hold.
I remain with you through what the DO produces.
Discomfort afterward does not automatically mean the movement was wrong. Nor does it mean you must continue. We do not manufacture confidence, suppress doubt, or turn persistence into a virtue. We stay with what is actually happening long enough for your agency to remain available.
You may proceed. You may pause. You may change course. You may leave. You may discover that no further action is yours to take.
HELD is not endurance training. The purpose is not to teach you to tolerate what should be left. The purpose is to help you remain with yourself while discovering what is actually yours to do.
04 · The container
Private. Limited. Built around one matter.
HELD is intentionally private and limited. The engagement is built around one defined consequential matter.
Before acceptance, there is a private screening conversation to establish the matter, the relevant professional context, the scope, and whether HELD is appropriate. Not every matter belongs inside HELD. An engagement may be declined when the circumstances fall outside the work, or when another form of professional support is more appropriate.
Two Intensive Days.
Two consecutive days, private, centred on the defined matter.
The Second Hold, thirty days.
Beginning when the second day concludes. Direct access when the consequences of a DO arise, up to six contacts, with a response within one business day.
A closing conversation.
Near day thirty. What moved. What changed afterwards. What remains. Then the container closes.
Delivery is in person or by secure video, as agreed for the engagement. An engagement may combine both.
25,000 USD
Where in person delivery is used, travel, accommodation and private location costs are additional to the fee and billed to the client at cost, agreed in advance.
05 · Confidentiality
The matter remains private.
HELD is confidential. The engagement, the matter, and what occurs within the work are treated as private, subject to the terms of the engagement and any disclosure required by law.
HELD does not produce a written analysis, recommendation or decision memorandum. The work is intentionally non-advisory.
Where additional contractual confidentiality is appropriate, an NDA can be executed before substantive information about the matter is shared.
Where a third party refers or pays, what may be shared with that party, if anything, is agreed explicitly before the engagement begins.
06 · What you are not hiring me to do
Agency remains yours.
I am not engaged to make the decision for you.
I do not replace your lawyer, physician, therapist, accountant, fiduciary, investment adviser, family-office professional or other licensed or technical adviser.
I do not provide legal, financial, investment, medical or psychological advice through HELD.
I do not guarantee that you will make a particular decision, or any decision, during our time together.
If I needed you to move in order for my work to be considered successful, my need for an outcome would enter the room.
That is precisely why the HELD fee is for the agreed container, my presence and the defined access surrounding the matter. The fee is not contingent upon movement, a decision or any particular outcome.
A referring or paying party is purchasing access to the HELD container, not a predetermined decision or outcome. The client’s agency remains controlling regardless of who pays the fee.
Your agency is more important than my desire for a result.
07 · Who this is for
For the person who already has access to answers.
The issue is not lack of intelligence, resources or professional advice. There is simply a consequential matter that has stopped moving.
It may concern a business, a transaction, a succession, a family matter, a relationship, a legacy decision, or another matter of consequence. The subject can vary. The condition is the same.
It matters.
It isn’t moving.
And another opinion is not what you need.
08 · Why me
Patricia Pollack, Guide
I help people find what is really running underneath the problem, get steady, and take the next step.
It developed long before I had language for it.
Twenty-seven years inside complex care taught me to remain present when information is incomplete, to pay attention before interpreting, and to hold responsibility without demanding immediate resolution.
It does not give me infallible insight into another person.
I have combined that lived capacity with study and practice in human behaviour, hypnotherapy, subconscious processes, emotional intelligence and nervous-system regulation. None of those disciplines is the product.
The work is what happens when I bring that capacity into the room with you.
I can remain without requiring your discomfort to end for my sake.
I can resist being recruited into urgency.
I can notice without immediately imposing meaning.
And I can hold the frame without taking your agency away from you.
Today, I bring it to one consequential matter at a time.
09 · Apply
HELD begins with a private screening conversation.
To determine whether the matter and the engagement are a fit.
I work privately with a small number of clients each year, by application or introduction.
The screening conversation carries a separate 500 USD fee.
I read every enquiry myself.